Landing the wrong person might ruin your life in the long run, or may push you to a therapist. You need to get your priorities right and must ideally have a game plan.
Though it’s tough to have a clear picture of your
ideal partner if you are in your 20’s, at least stay away from potential red flags.
And the most important advice a young man can get is that do not get too involved too soon and take your time to form an opinion. Research has found that it takes approximately 2 years of dating for a man to get a somewhat accurate idea about his girlfriend. So don’t blow all your money taking her on cool vacations or buying her a fancy car in the early days of your relationship.
To get things rolling, you need to impress your girl on the first date. This is the most important move you need to make to inch closer to the goalpost. And with Tinder and Snapchat and all the options she has, it is crucial you do not waste any opportunity on your first date.
Here are 5 tips to impress on the first date:
Keep It Casual and Have Some Fun
Dating is a whole lot of fun when you are in your teens, but as we grow older things get complicated.
Dating used to be exciting, innovative and adventurous. Are they the same now as well?
Show her that you are happy that she has come out with you and forget about where this is headed. Dating is more about living in the moment and making the most of the time you have. Think like a teen. Remember the heart pumping anticipation and excitement of going for a first date?
So ensure when you are taking your girl out on a date it is more than just wine and good food and the biggest relationship killer is judging the other.
As much as you can, keep your first date casual and be yourself (as clichéd it may sound), and enjoy it.
Flirt Smart
There is a very thin line that separates flirting from being sleazy.
If you can master the art of flirting then consider the battle of first date half won.
Women don’t like it if flirting borders on indecent or overtly suggestive. But flirting is that special flying carpet that takes your friendly banter to a sexier plane. It can steam things up and make things more interesting to your lady, who probably now senses that you can be imaginative and seductive as well.
Flirting is an art and if you do not get the timing and expression right, it might just ruin the whole affair.
So the thumb rule is if you are a great flirt, flaunt your skills, or otherwise wait for a better opportunity.
Ask Questions
You cannot have a successful date if you end up not knowing much about her other than where she works. Your woman will like it if you want to know about her. It need not be anything deep, but sharing a few things significant or important will definitely help you have meaningful conversations.
Once you have built up a rapport, ask her about her last vacation or how she spent the weekend. You can ask follow-up questions and get to know what interests her, what she enjoys and the things she would rather not waste her time on.
Do not just focus only on her physical attributes. She will like compliments, but you are not talking to her because she has a hot figure. Steer clear of discussing her physical attractiveness and try to go beyond superficial banter.
Your date will also like to know the well-dressed man she has come out on a date with. Talk about what you do (do not make it boring, she does not want to know about your tech expertise), maybe about your family or where you went to college.
There is a lot that you both can talk about if you can just slide the whole thing into the right gear.
Do Not Have Too High Expectations
Sky high expectations can ruin any date. Come with an open mind. You are meeting a stranger or someone who you know very little about.
Be ready to take things with the flow. If you are disappointed and are just ruing your wasted evening, it would not be very long before she reads your mind. And that can result in hurt, anger or maybe a girl’s night out the next weekend dissing you and your tribe.
Be graceful and stay engaged. Do not just head nod to what she is saying. Listen and give genuine opinions. You never know where an honest conversation can take a date.
As damaging as having sky-high expectations is to not have any. There will not be the definite end where you want your dating game to head to or in other words you are clueless about your goalpost.
Be honest with your date and be specific about what you are looking for and what you want from a relationship. A transparent and straightforward man is attractive to a woman and she will like the fact that you do not shy away from stating your priorities.
Have Good Manners
Good manners also mean thoughtfulness, consideration, kindness and care. These are qualities that make any girl giddy over a man.
If you an ill-mannered, boisterous and self-obsessed man, it is time to mend your ways. Women will realize that you will not give damn to their emotions or feelings and will trample on them like an elephant. And there is no doubt that your dream date will turn sour in no time.
Make sure that you come across as someone who is capable of realizing the needs of others.
Open the door or pull out the chair for her. If she is in high heels do not make her walk a lot. No matter how much she seems at ease, her feet are hurting like hell.
And also remember to laugh at her jokes. Women like that, just like you.
Treat waiters, valets and bartenders well and do not be obnoxious. Respect people who are serving you and you have already got your date weak in her knees.
Another point to remember is that women do not like a man who speaks ill of other girls. In fact, it can be a huge put-off for your woman. And do not refer to women as ‘females’. Women do not talk about ‘males’ in office, they talk about men.
Conclusion
The dating scene is always unpredictable. Remember to keep things simple, straight and fun. A clean, funny and genuine guy can win all dating awards as far as the general rules of the game go.
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